Each and every day I learn a little bit more; about myself, others, and the world.
After putting some thought into it, here is what I have realized today:
People never change. Situations do. Yes, their actions and preferences may change over time, however, the person remains the same. What is done to one person will be done to another, by the same one who inflicted the wounds on the first.
Sorry if I've lost you.. I'm rambling.
Anywho, it is inevitable. We all do it. "Once a cheater, always a cheater"... Some will argue that this is not the case. Those same people most likely have also cheated. In this particular example, I completely agree with the statement. Once someone has established with themselves or with others that they have particular tendencies, it stays with you forever. You may not act on it, but it is a part of who you are. It is this mindset that helps me get through every day. When I think about the past and the things that have been done to me, I don't cry like I used to; instead I chuckle to myself about how I see now what I couldn't before, and think about how lucky I am that I am no longer in that situation. I pity her, though. Some days I hate her guts. But most days, it makes me sad that she has no idea who he is.
This pattern with him has continued, and will continue in the future. This very person supports my theory. HE will never change; merely the situation will.
I will never change; I never have changed. My behaviors have changed and I have matured, but I will never change. I will always be the same Sam that I have always been. I have the same tendencies that I've always had, and that will forever be a part of who I am; what makes me ME. The situations that I have been in have changed, some for the better and some for the worst. But I have adapted. Not changed.
Signing off for now,
Simply Sam
